I’m gonna quote Duncan’s post here for my intro:

“I don’t like this topic. Mainly because i have to be honest And my views might upset people but i guess it cant be avoided.”

Pretty much same here. Only I have some verbal dikes in place here and there, so I can go right ahead and write what is needed about bullying and its relationship with teachers, students, and parents, without risk of a flood of negative consequences.

What can teachers do to stop bullying? They need to have stricter rules in the classroom and keep a keener eye on who may be causing a student discomfort. Bullying manifests itself in many forms, and a teacher needs to pay attention not to what a student says, but how the other receives it. They should also have more control over talking without permission, as lax discussion rules can prompt some to carry [the discussion] out of control and slip in a snide comment. Maybe patrol the hallways between periods, concentrating on the areas that the cameras and resource officers don’t cover. Kids aren’t that stupid. If they gonna bully someone, they gonna do it where the little black semicircle don’ see and the cop don’ hear.

What can parents do to stop bullying? Be more tech-savvy. I mean, half of modern parents don’t even know how to check browser history! They don’t have much influence over what happens in school, but can keep an excellent tap (literally) on their kid’s communication from home. Call up chats and comments from the router and make sure they’re staying in line. Check their social media accounts regularly. Ask if everything is okay when they come home angry or quiet – who knows, maybe they’ll reveal an incident from school or an argument with friends. And of course, if the parents do catch their child in a bullying situation – whether offender or victim – it’s important not to blow up. Just talk it out, explain why that particular behavior is wrong, and suggest an alternative way to express themselves.

What can students do to stop bullying? This one made me smile. If the NHS administrators could transform into students and walk the halls between periods…boy, would they hear a lot. Half the school wouldn’t BE here anymore. Most kids say stuff that’s defined as bullying on an everyday basis to each other. They just know that the person most likely isn’t serious and shrug it off. It’s actually an extremely small percentage of kids who go out of their way to purposefully make someone else’s life unpleasant.

Kids should learn to logically defend themselves in an argument, or if they’re insulted. If you’re angry at someone, make sure that anger is cold and use it to express your opinion gently and without offending. And honestly, tone it down on the profanity. If each f-word said during the year was a brick, I could build a castle.

Cyberbullying is interesting. Since you don’t have any of the tones and gestures as in real conversation, sarcasm is often lost. And it’s really easy to be mean without showing your true identity. I’d say the best choice is to either ignore what you perceive as cyberbullying, or to respond in a calm and restrained manner. I recently had an argument with a dude on Google+ over the quality of comments on a post. His language probably was defined as cyberbullying, but I responded calmly and controlling myself. I figured out what he was mad about, and we resolved the issue. Most of the time, when a person writes something mean online, it’s for a reason. If they say you have no friends, well, you probably have no friends. Just be the better person and don’t descend to their level. About punishment, I honestly don’t know. I do know that the punishment for how another person perceived your writing should be moderate at most.

That’s pretty much it. In conclusion, to stop bullying, we need to narrow its definition from what a person perceives it to be, to actual bullying.

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